I will wait for you


I am a mom.

Of course, I am a lot of other things, too. I am a Hartwick College graduate. I am a workforce development professional. I am a staff member of the County of Otsego IDA. I could go on but I think you get the point.

That said, the fact of the matter is that being a mom is a piece of my self-identification that feels much more solid than those other things. I’ve been doing it for a lot longer, for one thing — almost 30 years. And I’m at the point in parenthood where I’m starting to see results — some happier than others but results nonetheless. I am not finished by any means, of course, but I’m pretty close to done with the job part.

You know about the job part of parenting, right? That’s the part where you get your kids ready to go have lives … without the need for you. Parenting, if done correctly, is the supreme act of goodness in most people’s lives. In it, you take on the nurturing of a small and youthful person. You commit to seeing to it that they learn the things they need to learn. You have the care of their well-being, physically, mentally, emotionally and intellectually. You do all this so that this person will one day because a self-sufficient and contributing member of society. So, in addition to doing what you do as a parent for your child, you are also doing it for society at large.

Parenting is a pretty big deal and all parents should remember that.
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The me I never knew

What does it mean when your children have the same philosophies or values, even when they are dissimilar in every other way? Does it mean that they might have learned something from you? Or does it mean that they have all become adept at telling you what you want to hear because you are that easy to manipulate? Or does it, perhaps, mean nothing at all?

I got to thinking about that after that last post of mine, when both of my daughters came in here (four minutes apart) to say essentially the same thing. Since both comments had to be approved by me before they were visible, you can’t say that Gina saw Kimmie’s comment and decided that she had a good point and would echo it. Besides, that would be completely out of character. And, considering the time of day that they posted and the fact that there’s a 3 hour time difference involved, I don’t think there was any conspiracy involved either. That would be completely out of character for both of them. They just happened to have the same thought.
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